Shame vs Guilt

Another gem from my trauma therapist – the difference between shame and guilt. Shame is the feeling that you are bad. Guilt is the feeling that your actions are bad. A normal amount of both is necessary to live in world with others. They keep a person (most of us 😉 ) from scratching theirContinue reading “Shame vs Guilt”

The Sweet Potato Incident

This is the first in a series of blogs I intend to write about my experience being homeless as a young child and the events leading up to it as I have come to understand them. My mother joined the Army in late 1981/early 1982. My sister Sara and I were 1 and 2, respectively.Continue reading “The Sweet Potato Incident”

Internal Family Systems Therapy

My therapist recommended IFS or Internal Family Systems therapy to me several months ago. The idea behind the therapy is that a person is made up parts and sometimes those parts do more harm than good. We all have parts. We talk about them often. “There’s a part of me that’s happy this happened butContinue reading “Internal Family Systems Therapy”

Thanksgiving

Repost from my Facebook page. Written Thanksgiving 2019. I’ve never liked Thanksgiving. I think it’s stupid. It’s food based and the drama that comes with it isn’t worth roast turkey and stuffing. But I’m grateful we did our Sisters’ Thanksgiving last year. It was the first time we’d all four been together since my weddingContinue reading “Thanksgiving”

This is me

I relate so hard to Randall Pearson on This Is Us. From the stuff with his dad, his family, his need to succeed, his breakdowns, his anxiety. He’s textbook Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. Just like me. His conversation with Kate at the cabin in this week’s episode hit me hard. I know he was talkingContinue reading “This is me”