I don’t really care about Mother’s Day. I did once, when I was a new mom. But new mom’s don’t get celebrated on Mother’s Day, old moms do. I felt like more was done for my mother in law and expected for my own mother than I got. I still feel that way but IContinue reading “Mother’s Day”
Another gem from my trauma therapist – the difference between shame and guilt. Shame is the feeling that you are bad. Guilt is the feeling that your actions are bad. A normal amount of both is necessary to live in world with others. They keep a person (most of us 😉 ) from scratching theirContinue reading “Shame vs Guilt”
This pandemic has been tough on me. It’s been tough on everyone in different ways. I try hard to not shame myself into thinking my struggles are not valid. We moved during this. Not that it matters but it was never our intention to move during a global pandemic. As the world closed down weContinue reading “COVID and OCPD”
Four years ago I had a nervous breakdown. It was the best thing that could have happened.
I haven’t spoken to my mother much since my sister was murdered over a year ago. Honestly, that started a month before my sister died. I tried to talk to her about things I’ve learned in therapy and she hung up on me. So I don’t talk to her. Talking to her means I haveContinue reading “Pretending”